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Life’s always throwing questions our way. Some are big, while others are small. Who am I? What do I want? What shall I make for dinner? Knowing what you think about things and how you feel is a really important part of understanding yourself and helping you on the way to wholeness.

I’ve compiled a list of 20 questions which will make you consider things a little differently and could even show you possibilities you haven’t thought of yet.

  1. Did I do something just so I didn’t disappoint someone?

Be careful that you’re not doing things you really don’t like just to gain someone’s approval.

  1. What’s the one golden rule that works for me?

It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t work for everyone. It’s about what works for you.

  1. What’s the big risk I’m worried about?

Think about the biggest risk and confront it head-on. By figuring out the worst-case scenario, you can either make sure you’re prepared for it, or you can realise how unlikely it is to happen.

  1. And what are the tiny risks?

Little risks are often manageable. Think about what they are and maybe even write them down. They’ll seem much smaller and you’ll feel able to tackle each one.

  1. Who do I yell at inside my head?

We all do it. In the car, on the way home from work, in the shower. There’s always somebody we rage at. Try to figure out why you’re so mad at that person and why you can’t bring it up with them. You might just find that working it out is enough to make it go away.

  1. What small thing makes me happy?

Do you love squishing all the avocadoes in the supermarket to see which one’s best? Maybe you’re happiest belting out Whitney while driving down the motorway and nobody can hear you? Find that little thing that floats your boat and do it whenever you can.

  1. What does nobody know about me?

And why don’t they know?

  1. How would my relationships change if I always told the truth?

If you decided never to lie again – even little white lies – how would your friendships and partnerships change? Would you feel closer to people? Would you feel relieved that you could feel totally like yourself?

  1. What’s my go-to spiritual practice?

You might just have answered that with “oh, I don’t have one”. Time to think of a way to find your zen in a world of chaos. Maybe it’s going for a walk. Perhaps it’s baking a cake. It could even just be counting to ten while you make a calming cup of tea. Find what works for you.

  1. How often does my body scream “STOP, WOMAN!”

Pay attention to it when it does. Headaches, tiredness, skin outbreaks – they’re all signs that you need a bit of a rest.

  1. What would I write on my own fortune cookie?

Maybe “I deserve love”? Or “Don’t be scared to take a risk”? It could be “Brownies are always the answer”. It’s your fortune – go ahead and pick your destiny.

  1. What three items do I always need in my fridge to feel comfort?

What’s always in there that you know you could turn to when you need a pick-me-up or need to feel refreshed?

  1. Have I found the best way to deal with the things I find annoying in other people?

It’s time to let the little things go. We all do things that annoy people. Every single one of us. So, finding a way to not let other people grind our gears with their little shortcomings can lead to a much happier day for everyone – especially you!

  1. What do I think about the person who harmed me?

Can you think of anything you have in common? It might just help you find the humanity in them and have a better understanding of why they did what they did.

  1. Why do I think the people who love me, love me?

We’re often the hardest on ourselves. So, if you can see yourself the way others do, you might just find some really great things about yourself that you don’t pay enough attention to.

  1. What would my mum say if she were here?

Mums usually know exactly how to stop you from getting hurt. So, if you think your mum would say no to the thing you’re thinking of doing… maybe don’t do it.

  1. What have I realised I’ll never be great at?

This doesn’t mean you should stop doing it. Terrible at painting? Keep going. Awful at baking? Doesn’t matter – bet there’s still a delicious sugary mess to eat at the end.

  1. What real work have I done towards achieving happiness?

Most things that are worth it do take a bit of effort, right? So have a think about what you could work a little harder on in the short term to bring you happiness in the long run.

  1. Do I care too much about what people think?

We all worry about what others think about us. It’s part of being human. But what you’re really doing is allowing others to dictate who you are and the way you behave. Think of all the things you know and all the things you’ve done to make you the person you are today, and be proud of them.

  1. Who’s my favourite person to hug (and why)?

Everyone needs hugs. And some people are just really good at them. So think about who your favourite hugger is and, if you can, go give them a squeeze.

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